Wednesday, July 13, 2011

My opinion and views on 16 and Pregnant Adoption Special




700,300  teen girls get pregnant in America each year and 1% choose adoption..  As Dr. Drew pointed out. He also pointed out in factual way that most teen mothers they choose adoption go farther in life, and with their education. Its not a secret that I love both shows! But I still do have my own opinion.

As a Birth mother I have been drawn to the three young woman that placed there children on the show 16 and Pregnant Catelynn, Ashley and Lori(Lori could not make it but, my feelings are that she was pushed rather hard into adoption). Once I got word that MTV was having the adoption special I knew I had to watch. I in many ways can relate with the young ladies and in other way's my son's adoption was completely different.

I loved that MTV did not candy coat any part of the adoption process or  the emotions that go along with adoption and Birth families pain. He also touched on the emotions that the adoptive parents go threw. Dr. Drew is a extremely smart and caring man.  Many times in the show he got very emotional.
I however don't feel that the show can ever fully show what Birth mothers go through and the pain we feel. It is a life long decision that we must live threw and not just threw our teens and twenty's but till the day we pass on.

 My favorite part of the show besides seeing  the beautiful babies and how they have grown,  Dawn who is Catelynn's adoption counselor discussed adoption language which makes my heart swoon like it did when I first saw Joey Mcintyre from NKOTB;). My largest pet peeve is when people say I gave up my son.. It is not gave up.. I PLACED MY SON FOR ADOPTION. I have never ever in my life given up on my son nor have any lovely Birth Mother I know have.





The strength and heart it takes to place your child for adoption is with out words... But to do it on national television where people can ridicule you is another thing. I wish that I could meet these girls and thank them for putting a face to being a birth mother and getting the word out there. If you are a birth mother, know a birth mother or have a birth mother give them a hug and just tell them Thank You!