At first our relationship was quite like a blind date.. then slowly to newly dating couple and right on to lets meet the parents! At that time we heard news that you dont expects to hear from a birth family. "We are very proud of A's decision to place, but even more proud that she picked you both to be this little girls parents" Latter on when Lillian decided to show her little cute bum we got to spend a lot of time with A, A's mom, dad sister, and best friend we will call him T.
Going in we had no idea what to expects what so ever.. but we were greeted with open arms... and even teased a hemm because some soon to be daddy made the soon to be mommy RUN threw the parking lot and hospital... turns out the birth family watched the running threw the parking lot. Insert blushed cheeks;). I loved talking with A's dad about the Chicago Cubbies... and latter got the joy of being A's pushing partner... one of three.
When it really was time to start pushing and having pain.. A asked me why is she giving me so much pain, and asked me to tell her to stop.. I found this to be almost to emotional to handle. A had already decided that I was Lillian's mom.. A's mom said "A you have to talk to God about it!". As the day wore on Matt could not bare the pain A was going threw so A's father and Matt waited in the hall way. I never left A's side but to use the restroom once and to let her get "checked". When it was time to for real push push, A's mom yelled out in the hallway for Matt "to get in here your baby is going to be born" Once the topic was brought up as to who will be cutting the cord, A's dad took the lead and said as a family we would like Matt to, after I offered to if no one was willing to. I could not contain my hope love and joy for this family.. Once Lillian was born she was carted out of the room... A's parents looked at me and Matthew and said "what are you doing your baby is in the hall way all alone".. Matt and I looked at each other and at them... I muttered out "I was just worried about A and didn't want to".. "GO GO your baby". Both of A's parents stopped by when she was getting her stats, apgars, bath and pictures with her squweee PARENTS!:) We were parents..when they did they would great us with HI parents!:)
The next day Lillian's mom sighed the parental right papers, Matt picked up our attorney at the air port( all of our attorney, they represent both parties) Matt also took him back to the air port. That afternoon A had a call from the Court house and she did some thing I will always thank her for. She asked if the prosses could be speed up for us.. this is something that birth mothers can do now a days. Latter that night around 4 pm A was sent home.
We had Lillian in our hospital room the entire time.. she never left my side... we left two days latter on ward to our home. and Two months latter we were in that very court house that made the call to A's hospital room..
I will NEVER be able to Thank A. enough for being the woman she is, picking us to be her Little girls parents. But I also cant stop thanking her for her unselfish ways she and her family treated us. We truly felt like family! When we would text and email.. we would get my parents say hi or give Lilly( she like most people call her Lilly) kisses for us!
Happy Forever Family Day/ Adoption Day!
Lillian thank you for helping your Birth Mommy pick us to be your parents! They love and joy you have brought to our life is the best thing that will ever have happened to us! We love you so much A and Lillian!
